While people say that opposites attract, I’m not sure that they can live together if they don’t share the same views on clutter and home keeping. Is the pile of dirty clothes/toys/mail left in the floor/room/table a sign that your spouse doesn’t value the family and home or is someone just tired from a long day? Everyone has different standards of cleanliness and order and it is important for your relationships that you are in synch on what those are. I have lived with people less organized than myself and I can tell you it is not fun to come home from a 4 day business trip with the same dirty dishes in the sink that were there when I left. I interpreted that as disrespectful and lazy and I vowed not to live like that ever again.
Be careful of how you keep your home and personal spaces. Clutter doesn’t help anyone and it may really be annoying the person with whom you live and love! If you don’t love it, use it, or need it, get rid of it. William Morris said it best:
“Have nothing in your houses that you do not know to be useful or believe to be beautiful.”